YOU DON'T ALWAYS HAVE TO SAY 'YES'
We're here to remind you that, you are allowed to say "no". It’s a very popular thing to tell someone "say yes more" or "you should be more open to saying yes". Well, we’re here to tell you that you don’t have to.
Instead, you’re allowed to say "no". If something doesn't feel right or you're over committing yourself. Put your own needs first -decline an invitation and do something you actually want to do. This might seem a little alien to you at first, because we like to keep everyone happy. But - spoiler alert - you can't control other peoples happiness. You can only control yours!
Know that you're "no" is as valuable as your "yes".
Now we're not encouraging you to never say yes again - avoiding all social interactions for the rest of time. We're simply reminding you that saying "No" is ok! You no longer have to endure those long drives to your friends friend's equestrian event -when you don't really like horses, and suffer from car sickness, or agree to go to an impromptu camping trip -when you hate nature!! Why keep doing this to yourself!? It's ok to say "no"! Give yourself the permission.
The next time someone asks you to do something you’re not entirely into, we recommend you take a step back. Take a moment to really consider the situation. Is this something you want? Is it your heart behind it? What's the worst that could happen if you say "no"? If the answers are leading to a "no", SAY IT, and don't feel guilty about it! Life is too short to be spending what little free time you get in miserable situations just because you couldn't say "no".
Friendly reminder: The worse thing you can do is say "yes" to the friend, colleague, associate etc and then 'flake' at the last minute! Especially when you had no intention of going in the first place. That is way worse than being upfront in the first place and just saying "No". Believe us!
So be honest with yourself and others, and respond in a way that reflects that! Yes you may disappoint some people but you can't control how others respond, only they can. So stay true to yourself, and remember there might not be a right or a wrong answer. There is only your answer. You have that choice.
Have you had the power to say no when in the past you'd always say yes? Share your experiences with us in the comments below.